Me, MySelf, & I....

Why is it that people are so self-centered??? Sorry but it is driving me crazy and I just realized this aging after a weekend spent meeting new people and phoning some friends to catch up. For the record when I meet you for the first time and I ask you “So, what do you do?”, it doesn’t mean that ‘n want a half an hour conversation with you telling me your entire life story before you turn around and leave without knowing more about me than my name. It only means that I am making polite conversation, I don’t care where you from, or how you got there and I don’t want to know what your mothers favorite recipe is. It is a platonic straight forward question that requires a simple one-liner answer. If and when we end up getting to know each other better you will be entitled to bore me with your life story, and I wouldn’t mind because at that point I will actually care.

I just need to share this, I met just such a person on Saturday evening, and after boring me with his origin and family history and me politely excusing myself from the torturous conversation, he came back later to say that he is leaving. His last words after inviting me with were a ramble of some random numbers. Yes, wait for it; he was giving me his cell number, now seriously. How shallow are you when you think that I would want your number when all you can do is talk about your self? The way I see it: “082 go *&?% yourself, or was I supposed to write it down and look forward to candlelit dinners with you rambling on about yourself again?

I am not being rude, I love people, I love different kinds of people, I love meeting new people, but most importantly I love having conversation. And conversation doesn’t mean that when I ask you one polite question you start at the beginning and never stop talking.

Take a step back and embrace the diversity of the people around you, you will realize that there is more to life than your little bubble and you might even learn that listening will get you a lot further than self-absorption. The way I see it people don’t care enough anymore, because we have all fallen into the trap of “I am too busy”. Seriously!!!!!! We are all too busy, you don’t want me to tell you what I have on my plate at the moment, but unlike you I have realized that everyone’s problems now matter how small, are huge to them, everyone’s life no matter how mediocre is extremely busy! We are all busy, we all have a lot to do, but it is those of us that make time no matter how busy we are that really and truly know how to embrace those around us. And at the end of the day it doesn’t matter what you do and how busy you are, what matters is those around you, those people who you must realize will someday not be there anymore, and then you are going to regret always being to busy. So I leave you with this, next time someone asks you “How are you” don’t say its going well, don’t say your life is busy, rather think of a more creative answer, a more honest answer, and then ask them how they are doing…